Friendship is life
Friendship is of great importance for human development and well-being. Friends support each other, broaden their horizons and take them to new milestones. They give us the joy of unselfish, sincere communication, sympathy, unity, and play. For more than 75 years, Harvard has been researching how people develop in adulthood, and now scientists can say with confidence: the quality of life, its duration, and health are most influenced by the good relationships that a person maintains throughout life. If you know how to care and accept care, communicate joyfully, and make friends, then you will live happily ever after. In general, we already knew this, but now we are receiving scientific confirmation. So, helping your child learn to make friends, build good connections, and establish beneficial exchanges with people is very important.
However, it is worth keeping one thing in mind regarding children and friendship. A small child is a deserved egoist, and that’s normal! He looks at the world as a playground, and feels himself to be the shining navel of the earth. Gradually he grows, develops, discovers the strange circumstance that other people love and protect themselves first of all, and not him (and this is not always a pleasant discovery). He becomes imbued with the magical possibility of sympathizing with and appreciating another. This is how a person gradually develops and matures. Unfortunately, overcoming a child’s egocentric position does not happen to everyone and not always; some people remain stuck in infantile egoism for years and decades. This is sad and terribly inconvenient, especially for loved ones; it hinders the development of the person himself and is difficult to overcome. So it is better to help the child gradually come out of his egoistic shells even before growing up, and friendship will be very useful here.
Summary of a lesson on speech development in the senior group “Conversation about friends and friendship”
Ganina Svetlana Alexandrovna
Summary of a lesson on speech development in the senior group “Conversation about friends and friendship”
Lesson summary on speech development
in the senior group on the topic
«Conversation about friends and friendship»
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Teacher of MBDOU No. “Kindergarten No. 323 “Fairy Tale”
Ganina Svetlana Alexandrovna
- developing in children the skill of establishing good, friendly relationships with children;
— consolidation by children of knowledge about the rules of communication with friends ;
- teach children to see the good qualities of their comrades;
— teach children to select words with the same root;
- formation of tolerant (tolerant)
children's relationships with each other;
— development of moral education;
— develop speech activity;
- develop the ability to argue your point of view.
-pictures with children, adults,
-piggy bank with hearts,
- a song about friendship on a tape recorder .
Imaginary friends
Some children “make” imaginary friends, and their mothers immediately begin to worry: the baby lacks communication, he grows up withdrawn, no one understands him. But psychologists say that most often an imaginary friend is a sign of good fantasy. This is how the baby intuitively finds a way to deal with fear (it’s not so scary in the dark with a “friend”) and other experiences, and demonstrate his new interests and abilities. Therefore, do not laugh at the baby’s imaginary friend and do not criticize their communication, because the child will most likely be offended by you and express all his experiences to an invisible friend.
Of course, if you are worried about a child’s behavior, then you should consult a psychologist, but the situation becomes dangerous when an imaginary friend takes over the child’s consciousness and life, and he can no longer distinguish the game from reality. It is also worth paying attention to whether the child’s stories and games with his “friend” are cruel. Another reason to contact a specialist is a child’s refusal to play with real children and the appearance of imaginary friends in adolescence.
Five to seven
The older children get, the longer they can play together. Moreover, their communication is not limited to playing or playing roles; they already talk about abstract topics, discuss cartoons, books, events, and even gossip. At this age, a good reputation with friends becomes important, so on the playground or in kindergarten our children may behave completely differently than at home. This is normal, because adults at work or in a friendly company often behave differently.
In order not to harm the child’s reputation and not to injure him, do not scold him in front of everyone, do not kiss him, stay close to him with respect, the child will appreciate this and be grateful. If a conflict occurs, watch until the situation gets out of control. And only in the event of a fight or protracted conflict can you approach the children and find out the details, help them understand the quarrel from the position of an independent judge, without taking anyone’s side. Unite children by interests: hang out with the children with whom your child goes dancing or drawing, together they learn to discuss what they see and hear. At this age, children are already beginning to appreciate the personal qualities of friends (and not just a nice cap, dress or bicycle); they can become attached to friends and suffer if they treat them unfairly. Discuss difficult situations with your child, explain the motives for your friends’ behavior, and talk through the motives for your child’s behavior. This will help him understand people better, be observant and less hurt in relationships, and not take other people’s awkward actions to heart.
